Parents and children 1.
I was on my way to a meeting when a friend of mine called to say that she had read my blog entry and wanted to suggest that I should write about how difficult it is for us as parents to find the right school for our kids and then we have to face the next challenge – how much should we push our kids to study and learn? Furthermore, if we have two kids, can we raise them identically even if they are totally different while at the same time not causing them to feel any kind of unfairness?
I think if we are being totally honest with ourselves, it is worth mentioning the following:
- it made our hair stand on end when our parents thought that they knew everything better…
- we are inclined to forget the fact that in our childhood, there were those “magic comments” that lead us to shut our ears and from that point on, whatever our parents said was totally irrelevant ...
- we were fed up with running from one extracurricular lesson to the next and we envied those classmates who were brave enough to party all weekend long ...
- we didn’t like it when we were compared with our siblings, not only at school but at home as well, in fact…
Then let’s turn it around! Let’s look at the world as if it were upside down…:o)
- Even though we are parents, we too can make mistakes and in this case, we must also be able to apologize.
- If we utter these above mentioned “magic comments”, let’s remember that we can do it differently. We don’t have to follow the model that we ourselves despised.
- After a full week of racing with clock, we do not feel like working all weekend either...
- Each child has his/her own personality – with different tasks, challenges, abilities and capabilities. Let me give you an example – theoretically, we think that we have given birth to an apple (since it doesn’t fall far from the tree :o))) However, in the end it turns out that, although it is a fruit, it’s actually a pear and in my case, there is a peach as well. :o))
Do you see the difference yet? They are the same yet, different…:o)
Let’s continue from there. What does a conscious parent do in these situations?
